Numbness is usually a cover word for something we haven’t yet felt safe enough to feel. Underneath it, there’s almost always a feeling waiting for permission.

People use the word burnout lightly. The real thing is not light. It can wreck health, relationships, and careers. Learn the common signs of burnout and how to fill the tank again.

A healthy nervous system discharges survival energy once a threat passes. A stressed system holds on to it, and that energy compounds over time. Learn how stress builds into allostatic load, and how to start clearing it.

Most of us walk around with perception that has been shaped, and distorted, by pain we never processed. Doing the inner work can feel like cleaning a pair of glasses you didn’t know were dirty.

Life can really come at us. In the dark moments, we overthink and reach for choices that make the problem worse. But if we reach for an embodiment practice instead, something unexpected can happen.

How well a child can regulate their emotions predicts their adult health, wealth, and wellbeing about as strongly as their IQ or family’s income does. The most encouraging part: self-control is learnable.

Pain is an unavoidable fact of life. Suffering is optional and comes anytime we try to avoid pain. Learn why emotions keep knocking until we let them in, and how somatic practice makes room for productive pain.

When stress becomes chronic, the mind pulls away from the body and the body becomes a battle zone. Thankfully, this is a pattern, not destiny. Learn how it forms, plus a quick practice to start shifting it.

When trauma knocks us outside our window of tolerance, the window shrinks a little each time it’s triggered. Learn how the nervous system gets stuck on or stuck off, and how processing the original event helps it widen again.

On some days a snide comment rolls right off you. On other days, the same comment ruins your afternoon. The difference is your window of tolerance. Learn what it is, what shapes it, and how to widen it.

Story follows state. When we’re dysregulated, our brain runs on fear-based shortcuts. When we’re regulated, wisdom and intuition come online. Learn why you can’t think your way out of stress, and what to do instead.

Your nervous system is always in one of three activation zones: red, blue or grey. Learn what each zone feels like, how to get back into the blue, and two simple practices to help you get there.

Welcome to a brand new year!! You and the universe have only been this age once. So, I always pick out a word for the new year and my word for this year is Magic. I’m interested in setting up conditions that enable magical possibilites to unfold. I want to be surprised and delighted by my life, I demand nothing less!!

During the holidays, I’ve met with a handful of adult clients zooming in from their original family homes. It’s seldom an easy trip down memory lane. For many, it’s a reminder of the harsh constraints they faced in early years. To a lot of us as children, becoming a "grown-up” looked to be a dismal affair. Many adults just didn’t seem to be having a lot of fun out there.

Last week we talked about facing avoidances. The most important thing to face is your own fear. Once you are comfortable with your own fear, you are able to face anything. Where there is avoidance, there is fear, and where there is fear, there is numbness, or parts of your body that you don’t feel due to the fear. This is because, fear ejects you from the body into thinking, action, or dissociation.

“The master never reaches for the great, thus she achieves greatness. When she runs into a difficulty, she stops and gives herself to it. She doesn’t cling to her own comfort; thus problems are no problem for her.” - Lao Tse, Chapter 63, Tao Te Ching (Stephen Mitchell translation) Never was so much said by so few words!

One of my favorite signs of embodiment and self-connection, or “dropping in” is when the spine and limbs elongate slightly. It is a subtle shift and often the person remains unaware. A person who is seated and telling a juicy story may effortlessly straighten to become an inch taller. When this takes place, the body is signaling to itself and others that it is opening for business.