Couples Therapy

CALIFORNIA AND ONLINE

When nervous systems are regulated inside a safe container, you can work through differences and find common ground.

We help couples experiencing:

  • breakdown of communication

  • frequent & unresolving conflicts

  • damaged trust or infidelity

  • emotional disconnection

  • lack of physical intimacy

  • external stressors impacting the relationship

The other person is not the problem.
Nervous system dysregulation is the problem.

Together we rebuild
safety in your relationship

Your relationship is a living system. When there is not enough support, it can be overwhelmed by hurtful communication patterns, unmet needs, escalating conflicts and defensiveness. Your relationship quickly loses its sense of safety and trust.

Without safety, even small disagreements escalate. Emotional intimacy fades. Defenses go up.

The good news is when your nervous systems are better regulated, you can work through literally anything. 

And once repaired, your relationship knits back stronger than it was before.

In sessions you can expect: 

These practices retrain your collective nervous system toward safety, attunement, trust and collaboration.

Evidence shows that these approaches are effective both in-person & online.

Couples therapy that yields results:

Our couples therapy is designed to create a safe space to uncover the deeper issues driving conflict, and to help you reconnect with each other in a more authentic way. 

Together, we’ll explore:

What’s really under the conflict

Arguments aren’t really about who’s supposed to take out the trash. Anger is often a mask for more vulnerable emotions like fear, hurt, or disappointment. We’ll slow things down to uncover the real feelings underneath, and find healthier ways to respond to each other.

How the past is shaping the present

Old wounds don’t disappear on their own. We'll gently trace how past experiences are influencing today’s reactions and dynamics. With awareness and care, you can break negative cycles and create a new story for your relationship.

How to communicate for connection, not conflict

Learning how to truly listen, express needs without blame, and navigate differences calmly can transform the way you relate to each other. We’ll build communication skills that foster understanding, safety, and emotional intimacy.

More information on our approach to couples therapy can be found here.

Couples Therapists

  • Flavia MacMenamin

    PSYCHOTHERAPIST ASSOCIATE

    Somatic, IFS, Couples (EFT), Parenting, Depth Psychology

    West LA, Online

  • Matt van Onselen

    PSYCHOTHERAPIST ASSOCIATE

    Somatic, IFS, Jungian, Mindfulness

    Los Feliz, Studio City, Online

  • Megan McAllister

    PSYCHOTHERAPIST ASSOCIATE

    Somatic,
    Attachment-Focused EMDR

    West Los Angeles, Online

  • Ulika Scout

    PSYCHOTHERAPIST ASSOCIATE

    Somatic, EMDR, Parts-Informed Psychotherapy

    San Francisco, Online

  • Sarah Dunn

    PSYCHOTHERAPIST ASSOCIATE

    Somatic, IFS, ADHD & Autism, Health Conditions

    West LA, Studio City, Online

  • Justin Baker

    PSYCHOTHERAPIST

    Somatic, Hakomi, IFS-Informed, Highly Sensitive People

    San Jose, Online

Hear from our clients

The best time to start couples therapy is as early as possible

With escalating patterns & negative feedback loops, the sooner you work on your relationship the better.

Let's get you back on track.