California
Couples Therapy 

We start by focusing on stabilizing the relationship at the nervous system level and building a safe container for our therapy sessions together.

We find common alignments and goals and we slow everything down to build an environment where each partner can feel seen, heard, and emotionally understood–not just reacted to. 

Together, we build a clear, compassionate map of how your protective parts operate in moments of conflict, and how they can escalate into negative interaction cycles blocking what you both desire.

Using tools from attachment theory, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) & Gottman Method we:

• Identify the moments where protectors take over & apply nervous system circuit-breakers.

• Use I-statements and reflective listening to speak for parts & create “softening moments” of connection.

• Learn to own our side of negative patterns which helps our partner to own theirs.

• Learn how to disrupt negative interactions & support positive interactions to build the “magic” 5:1 ratio that thriving couples maintain.
  
  

You'll see that the problem isn't your partner, the problem is the pattern.

And patterns can change when we work at a nervous system level.

True relational healing happens at a body, or nervous system-level. 

In each session, we’ll practice somatic tools that teach your nervous systems to self-regulate and co-regulate in order to create safe conditions for connection. 

You can apply these same techniques as a circuit-breaker whenever conflict arises on your own. 

Exercises include:

• State awareness training 

• Circuit breakers to down-regulate activation–through breath, sound, touch & movement

• Intimacy building–synchronized breathing, eye contact & guided touch

• Partner nervous system tracking & reflection to support co-regulation 

These practices retrain your collective nervous system toward safety, attunement, trust and collaboration.